How I Can Help: Therapy for Couples, Partners & Individuals in Columbia SC

Relationships don't corrode all at once. More often it's a slow drifting; a gnawing distance, a cycle that once worked and then somehow stopped flowing, a growing sense of living alongside rather than with someone. Lost connection is one of the most disorienting experiences a relationship can produce as your person is still there, and yet an essential thread has slackened between you.

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When the felt connection between two people who love each other begins to fail, the pain becomes something more than an ache. It makes the future feel suddenly uncertain. What I bring to this work is an emotionally-focused approach that gets underneath the conflict to what is actually driving it — the attachment fears, the unmet needs, the patterns that made sense once and no longer do. Couples often arrive believing their problem is how they talk to one another. Usually it goes much deeper than that. And that's where the real work, and the real relief, begins.​

Something feels wrong — and maybe it has for a long time. The feeling that the past is unsettlingly alive in the present. That ambiguity drives feelings of uncertainty. Maybe even a sense of deeply buried shame that will not quiet. Patterns that seem to repeat no matter what you try. The lingering sense that the problem might somehow be you. It isn't. What happened has become what feels wrong, and that distinction with your own self matters.

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Healing doesn't follow a straight line, and it doesn't begin with excavation. It begins with enough safety that what has been buried can gradually find its way toward the light — at your pace, in your time.

Individual therapy is where we focus entirely on you; your story, your internal dialogues, your relationship with yourself and with the people closest to you. Depression, anxiety, identity questions, and the accumulated weight of just living a complicated, resonating life all have a place here.

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I work especially with men navigating the things social conditioning says to gut out alone — relationship pressure, work stress, midlife questions, PTSD, and the quiet exhaustion of carrying more than anyone around you fully sees. Threatened or actual separation is another area where I support men and women finding their way forward. I also work with partners of trauma survivors. People loving someone carrying deep wounds, whose own burden with this reality is rarely acknowledged. You deserve support that is specifically yours. As a systemic therapist I believe we are fundamentally social creatures, and individual work always happens in the context of our relationships. If at any point I don't feel like the right fit for you, I'll tell you honestly and help you find someone who is.

Communication is the fabric at the heart of every relationship and the first threads to fray. Nonverbal communication is often where the actual unraveling begins — a glance away, a silence that lands differently than it used to, a tone whose sharpness cuts deeper than the words spoken. Even acts of infidelity or emotional affairs are, at the core, miscommunications; often lurking long before the rupture rips open the hidden boil. When infidelity explodes into a relationship, the crisis it creates deserves more than damage control.

Together, we can find what needs to be said, heard, and, with time, renegotiated. But first, emotional re-regulation and truthfulness will need to be re-woven. Crisis is a bridge, not an end point. Understanding becomes the goal, not just information pulled out through excavation to ease the present shock.